This is less a question than something I want us to chew on together especially as it impacts the way we live. Growing up I was taught to act loving. I Corinthians 13 and other passages provided the guidelines to follow and we were supposed to “act” that way to keep on God’s good side.
Over the last couple of decades I’ve discovered that loving someone and acting like I love someone are two different realities. While there is value to acting in love even if it isn’t in your heart, the real power of love is a growing affection for people around us. When you genuinely care about someone you will act in loving ways intuitively. If I’m just acting it is often begrudgingly. (And I’m not just talking about emotional feelings here, but something deeper rising from the heart.) I’ve noticed how often Jesus was “moved with compassion” to touch a certain person.
Is anyone else noticing this in their growth process? How different is it to act in love and to actually love? What I like about the former is that God works in the heart; the other is us trying to perform. What do you think?