I guess its all in how you define love.
One of the hardest questions for me to answer on this God Journey, is, ‘What is Love?’ My birthparents, for example, expressed it in two entirely different ways. My mother was very demonstrative with her love, she would say ‘I love you’ after every interchange, and was free with her hugs and kisses. My father, on the other hand, was not, instead, he showed through his support of our activities, his faithfulness to his work so he could provide for us. They complemented eachother perfectly.
I am more like my dad in my expression of love. Maybe its a male thing, maybe not. I had a male friend and classmate who couldn’t understand why my dad and I didn’t show affection with eachother. Another friend was the same way with his father and brother. It didn’t come natural to us. When my dad became ill, and eventually passed away, there was no outwardly show of love amongst us before his death. He was incapable of it, being in a coma. But before he died, there was a tear that streamed down his cheek. It said more to me than any ‘I love you’ he could have mustered up. I knew he loved us, even though it was difficult for him to show it.
I often confuse love with tolerance, niceness, happiness, cheerfulness, a positive attitude toward others. Has anyone ever said to you, ‘I love you with the love of the Lord’, and it makes you cringe? Somehow you know they aren’t being geniune. Sometimes I simply don’t love someone. Sometimes I struggle to love, at all.
I once heard the opposite of love is not hate, but indifference. I’ve had people in my life I once knew intimately act indifferent toward me, and it is the worst feeling in the world. I’m sure many people believe that God is at best, indifferent. It shows up in the way the act in general, and toward others, in their lack of respect. Even a God of wrath is better than an indifferent God, no? For me, no! I’ll take a God of love, to love me enough for me to give that love to others as well.