I could see this playing out in a work place where the boss tells people to do what he says or else they might get fired...
I have also seen where loving people help others learn their place and role in the grand scheme of things, and when the person learns in a loving environment, it plays out very nicely.
Unfortunately it can often seem like the IC system tends to get people to go the way of the corporate boss by demanding compliance or else they tell the non-conformist that they need to go. I guess it also fits with the person who is a squeaky wheel, the person that asks too many questions, or the person who questions the status quo or questions why the status quo needs to stay in place.
The company boss needs to make sure everything keeps working so they can get out a product or service to sell to customers... but the problem is that the church should be all about loving people. It shouldn't be about living like you're in a forced labor camp or a factory of slaves who's lives are a dread, a drudgery, and pure misery.
One system is to enjoy peoples presence and enjoy loving friendships with others, but the other is there to use people for their own gain and profit.
This isn't a perfect picture of every job environment, but it is my attempt at a general example to show the flaws of a demanding IC leadership model, that demands more self-effort by way of promoting guilt based religious obligation.